My wife of 11 years recently decided to cut off her hair super short. She has known for 14 years how I intensly dislike short hair on women, it's a personal preferance. She always agreed. She would tell me how she wanted to be an old lady with long hair. It was beautiful hair, in fact one of the things that attracted me to her. She has been bored I can tell for months now. She got it cut short, I kept my mouth shut. She told me she didn't like it and was going to grow it out. Then out of nowhere she got it cut off...really short. Now she is constantly telling me how she and her friends just love it. I have been a good boy and kept my mouth shut not voicing an opinion one way or another. She is always saying she knows I hate it. I don't understand why she would do this, it really looks awful. I find it so distasteful that I am actually seriously less attracted to her. Why would you do something you know your partner won't like?
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
she wants a new bold look - let her make her own decisions and support her
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Probably freedom of choice.. Personally I wouldn't do that unless I had to because of my split ends.. Maybe she just wanted a change, REALLY BAD.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
she might be frustrated about something try to connect
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Rebellion - let her have her way with this
for better or worse, remember? be glad if this is only the "worse" you have
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Maybe you need to be honest with her in how you don't like it and would wish she would let it grow back some. Do you realize how hard it is to keep up on long hair.? Mine is to my butt. But, many times I have walked into a hair place and said cut it all off!! I told my husband it is my hair not his. I am the one who has to wash it, brush it and, try to get it dry enough to go out in the cold. You don't have to deal with it!!
But, I also know my husband likes long hair so, just talk with her.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Maybe she feels you're controlling her with this and this is her rebelling. Try your best to keep quiet and hopefully she'll grow out of it. (no pun intended)
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
When people are bored they are looking for change so with women in particular that usually means a change in hairstyle. Since it is her hair not much you can do about it. My guess is she will miss her long hair and grow it out at some point. She just needed a major change to shake things up a bit.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Her need of change is bigger then her desire to please you.
A few years back my hair would reach down my bottom and without a word I cut them short, real short. My husband was in shock and he hated it. He kept on being a good boy and my hair eventually grew back. Give it some time and you will learn to appreciate it. Remember, you did not marry her for her hair.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Sounds to me like she is starving for some kind of attention in someway.Maybe she was feeling neglected by you in some way.Now all the attention she getting from her friends is what she was looking for.Who's to say?!
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Heavy hair can produce enormous headaches.....Also taking care of it when ther is a more active life can be a reason..
Having long hair requires so much time, attention and care...Its not uncommon as women get older to start clipping the hair shorter and shorter so it doesn't have to take up so much time....
Find a good marriage counselor and go see them.... If you think the only way to love and be attracted to your wife is the length of her hair...Clearly other issues are going on and you need the a Marriage Counselor/ therapist for support....
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Hello,
Suggest that you approach your wife and open a respectful dialogue about what is happening in your marriage.
While it is possible to make assumptions about the meaning of cutting her hair, it is pointless. Only she knows what is happening in her inner world and how it relates to her self-image and your marital relationship. Good marital therapy is Not a "blame game" with winners %26amp; losers"...it can open the door to meaningful dialogues and better understandings and ultimately lead to improved, strong %26amp; respectful relationships.
All the best,
DF
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
u are a shallow piece of sh*it! and that MESS on top of your head looks good?? lmao! i hope she shaves it bald just for u!
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Well I feel the same as you do about long hair and also feel the same way about a wife or partner doing soemthing like that knowing the other would not approve of or like. It is their hair no doubt but the fact remains that it would not hurt anything for her to keep it long. My wife has hers very long and I think it is mostly because of me. I would feel the same as you if my wife would cut her hair. I have no idea why your wife did this unless she has turned gay, or found another man she wants or is going through mid life crisis. Hang in there but do talk to her about your feelings man. She needs to know. (smile)
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Most women go long, then short, then long, then short. Just because you don't like short.......well, you put her in an awkward position.
If you really love her, her hair length won't matter. What will you do when/if she gets cancer and loses her hair? Not love her because she's bald?
Edit: Dude, you don't want to have sex with your wife because she cut her hair!!! That is pretty shallow! You need on one-on-one time with a counselor to explore those beliefs. If she gets crippled in a car accident, you will divorce her OR honor your marriage comittment and take care of her for the rest of her life..like you LOVE HER.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
She may be at a point in her life where she wants to make decisions for herself - maybe she could wear a wig for you when you have sex - certainly your love for you wife is more than physical or are you frustrated because you aren't attracted to her anymore physically or emotionally. I would say there is more to this story than a bad haircut - I would seek couples counseling to help you resolve some pent up anger and resentment towards on another. Relationships that last for long periods of time need to change and grow - she can't be happy keeping the same haircut for 14 years - that is boring - no wonder she was bored - the haircut probably made her feel new and fresh. Don't be afraid to tell her your opinion - just don't ignore hers. Good Luck!
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
man listen to me on this one!!!
your women does not love you anymore and feels she needs to attract someone else, and once she does that you will be getting your papers shortly after that!!!
dont believe me think about it? she did something she knew you would hate, she doesnt care that you dont like it, and the sex has all but went by the waste side, (twice a month)
she is looking for a way out, so this is what will happen!!!
you will tell her that you dont like it and she will act like you are making a big deal out of it and she will act like you are controling her and then she will say something like if you are going to control me then i dont want to be around you any more ( it is my hair not yours) when she says that then you know what she is planning!!!
women dont have confidents like men do, they normally dont just walk away because they will look like the bad one they will make a reason why so they can tell someone. and so they take care of themselfs change there look, make new friends, meet new people, change jobs, then when all of that is done they have laid the foundation for a smooth transition from you to someone else and then blame it all on you!!!
if you want more info email me spottie73@yahoo.com
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
you need to just talk to her. First, ask if she's unhappy with anything in the relationship. Then ask why she changed her hair after you both discussed that you don't like it short. She will be offended, just to warn you in advance, because she'll be mad that you said you don't like her hair. But it's better to talk it out and get the problem out in the open than to keep your problem bottled up inside.
good luck
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
you need to talke to her and get her to thank of what she said and love you more bc she my be thinking of alot of things that are going worng and she stress out so she put the stress on her hair but talk to her and say if her just want to look that why and every thing is ok just let her be her and tell her that you like the new look and i am at war_mom4@hotmail.com if you want to talk
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Sounds like she was bored with how her hair looked. I speak from experience. My husband loves when I have long hair, too. I got it cut above my shoulders once %26amp; even though he preferred the long hair, he appreciated the new look. It's only hair. It will grow out! On the flip side, one time my husband shaved all his hair off %26amp; it looked awful. His head was white where the hair used to be %26amp; he had a tan everywhere else. I cringed looking at it, but after a couple of weeks, it was long enough to hide the white ring. Don't let this haircut get to you so much. Now that you see it has increased her confidence, why don't you use that to your advantage? I really do think she was tired of the old look. Her hair should not determine your feelings. Does she not have other qualities that turn you on? Are you taking this as a slap on the face as if she were disrespecting you? Please don't! This may be the change she needed to feel better about herself %26amp; if you start appreciating the positive, you may just end up with more in the bedroom!
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
So what if she cut her hair short... suddenly you don't want her? She may have just needed a change... for herself. Maybe she is starting to feel insecure and wanted to change something about herself to boost herself up... and plus with a big change like a hair cut... you get so many compliments on it whether it looks good or not. Maybe she just needs an ego boost... its a good thing she has someone like you around to do that for her! (dont take that seriously)! Why don't you forget about the hair and figure out whats really bothering her. Why don't you look past your selfish thoughts and be there for your wife. The woman you love the most....!!!!! ITS JUST HAIR!!!! In case you didn't know... it grows back!
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
I feel your pain bro. She probably wanted a change in her life and that is what she wanted. At least she acknowledges your feelings on the matter. You could be selfish and demand she change back or honor her and accept her decision.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
I was inclined to go with the "personal preference" answer until I read your additional notes. As a women who has been there I think she really is trying to tell you something. You don't go into detail but you sound as if she is growing distant from you? I think that she is going through that "mid-life" crisis that many of us women go through. How old is she? She is trying to find herself, change herself hoping to find out who she is. Unfortunately too often many women think they have to have an affair (with a man or woman) to try and figure out who they are. You guys need to talk about this, maybe with a counselor, before it causes irreparable damage to your relationship.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
aybe she used to hate it and has changed her mind about it.
Personally I had my hair grown long as my then partner liked it. I hated having it long. I cut it back to where I want it to be now and my SO loves it
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
You won't really know why she cut her hair unless you ask her yourself. Ask her why if she knew you'd hate it that why she still had it cut .It would be easy to answer your Q if you have sex regularly(just pick the first 2). The fact that she does not want to and only makes you have it 2x a month makes your Q a little complicated(that's why i also included the last 2)
Some guesses:
She could have been influenced by popular celebrities who have a short hair but still look hot...Victoria Beckham, Paris Hilton and most recently Kate Holmes OR
14 years of trying to please you, she must have gotten tired of maintaining the hair. It's not easy to keep long hair looking neat and pretty OR
She probably realize she's a lesbian OR
She has grown out of love for you and she's probably purposely trying to turn you off to get away from sex. Ask yourself, does your wife REALLY experience orgasm when she have sex with you or are you the only one who have it during sex? Many wives fake it. If she doesn't have real O, she wouldn't want sex and will feel used and empty after. After 14 yrs of feeling used,subconsciously, love will be lost.
Hope this helps.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Excuse me! This is her hair and I think she can do with it what she wants to...I think she cut her hair to make herself happy, not you..Some of us women love change especially in our appearance..You should be supporting her instead of getting on here complaining. She loves you, don't she? I bet she has always been there for you, so why don't you return the favor and be there for her. You say she is less attractive...Sorry honey, but she is the same person, except you see her differently., she don't see herself differently. If it makes her feel better about herself, why wouldn't you want that for her. YOU are just being selfish. And futhermore, hair don't a woman make. What if it all fell out because of a sickness, would you support her or complain about the hair loss. Please go to your wife and tell her that even though you don't really like it, you can learn to live with it and you support her because you love her with all your heart....I promise you, you will be the better person for it. i bet you this woman loves you and she will be by your side til the end. You mentioned lack of sex, do you suppose she is one of them that has to be romanced, do you think maybe you could do alittle more to get her to come around to your way of thinking....Try something new, I bet it will work. . .
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
You know what, it's HER hair and it's HER choice to cut it short, even if you don't like it. She's your wife, not your slave.
Maybe she just wanted a change with her hair, and wanted to do something different. Look at it this way, maybe for her having her hair shorter is easier to take care of.
Think of that instead of your dislike for it. Maybe it's easier for HER.
You sound like a selfish JERK who is more concerned about how long his wife's hair is instead of her happiness.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Maybe she just wanted something new, whatever her reason, you have to remember it is HER hair. Although, she most likely values your opinion, if she wants to cut her hair it is certainly her option.
You have to ask yourself if you married her for the person she is or how she looks. I know a lot of people are attracted to a certain type and that's fine, but if you really loved her, does it matter how long her hair is?
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
Perhaps she is doing something for herself and wants you to love her as she is; long hair, short hair or no hair. She did something drastic and may be looking for your support, not your criticism. Why make hair an issue? She can always grow it back later or wear a sexy long wig for you. I, personally, love long hair on men but I don't find my husband less sexy or desireable because he is losing his hair and cut it short. Think if you accepted her as she is and stop focusing on this one topic, complimented her and showed appreciation, the sex department might get hot and heavy.
She's trying to get your attention and think she has done so.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
This is not at all about hair, for either of you. Look deeper my friend.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
what the hell is it to you. its her hair and she has to do the upkeep and if it makes her feel good or better about herself then you should enjoy it with her. shame on you...she didnt marry her father she married a mate.
What makes a woman cut off her hair?
because she doesn't value you as much and doesn't feel she needs to fight for you anymore...love is a BI#% @@ isn't it?
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